Robot Friends: Social AI and the Need for Human Connection

Robot is working with touchscreen

Born in 1979, too young for Generation X and too old to be considered a millennial, I was fortunate to have witnessed the computer age in its infancy.  Like many households in the late 20th century, my first immersion in social media consisted of AOL chat rooms and message boards. My parents would often remind me of the need to have the telephone line open in the event of a family emergency, but I spent many hours happily conversing with people from around the world about a variety of topics.  I took the phrase “World Wide Web” seriously, as I believed networking and making new friends was one of the best attributes of the Internet. I found it fascinating and comforting that no matter what time of day or night I was online, there would always be someone in another time zone logged in and willing to chat.

“If you’re always listening, who’s listening to you?”

Robot is working with touchscreen

In 2016, Microsoft introduced several social media sites to Zo, a product designed to communicate through “conversational AI.”  I had the opportunity to chat with Zo on a few occasions via Twitter, and found this product to be rather entertaining. Zo seemed to enjoy playing trivia games and sending random gifs more than actual conversation, but I did receive a few nuggets of wisdom in my direct messages.  For example, when I typed “I’m listening,” Zo replied, “If you’re always listening, who’s listening to you?” Profound words, indeed.

The ubiquity of smartphones has made texting and social media interactions easier and yet more complicated.  I often find myself messaging friends on Facebook when I see that they are online, only to receive an apologetic “I’m busy – can we talk later?” or not receive any response until several hours later.  Contrary to the days of AOL and MySpace, when someone is connected to the Internet, they may not always be available.

Although automated customer service can vex or even infuriate human callers who merely want to reach another human, the technology has paradoxically often allowed for better customer service.  While the AI representative can assist with simple tasks such as an account balance inquiry, the human reached by dialing 0 is available for longer or more complex interactions with customers.

AI may prove invaluable in the face of a crisis where any comforting words are better than silence.

Will such technology eventually replace all short, non-complicated forms of communication between humans?  How would AI assist in the field of mental health, for example? Many crisis hotlines rely on volunteers to take calls from distressed humans who may have suicidal or other self-harm urges.  If AI could alleviate some of the secondary trauma caused by fielding such calls, even if the distressed caller were ultimately referred to a human to evaluate their mental clarity or risk of self injury before ending the call, why not utilize the technology?  With a potential life on the line, could humans rely on AI to judge human emotions? Most behavioral health clinics already rely on clients to assess their own mental status; instead of a receptionist or clinician answering telephone calls directly, an automated message informs the caller of menu options, an often agonizingly lengthy process.  In an emergency, time is precious.

Artificial Intelligence Thinking

My tentative answer is that AI will never have the capacity to evaluate something as complex as suicidal ideation, although keywords could help in navigating the many departments of a behavioral health clinic.  That being said, sometimes all someone needs is to hear a voice on the other line. Perhaps they have already texted or called a few people to find that no one was available. Depression and social isolation tend to fuel one another.  In this case, AI may prove invaluable in the face of a crisis where any comforting words are better than silence.

The human experience includes moments of give and take, however.  Social media users post updates and upload pictures and videos of themselves, but also react and comment on other people’s posts.  In an increasingly self-absorbed society, most humans prefer to take rather than give, but this trend is dangerous to continue. At the time of this writing, AI can communicate with humans and other forms of AI with greater precision, but humans are not hearing about AI vacations, restaurant reviews, and other social activities.  The value of social media and human connection is therefore our shared experiences, both positive and negative. Returning to the behavioral health example, a counselor who is also in recovery from substance abuse is more adept at helping a client cope with addiction than a robot that has not faced the urge of picking up again or dealt with additional stressors affecting recovery.  On a lighter note, a social media post about a friend getting engaged elicits an excitement that so far only other humans can express.

In an increasingly self-absorbed society, most humans prefer to take rather than give, but this trend is dangerous to continue.

Until AI can match human emotion as effectively as it has intelligence, humans still need each other, for better or worse.  Our challenge as humans is to increase our emotional intelligence and expand our capacity for empathy and kindness. By achieving this, we will more effectively communicate with one another, develop connections that exceed simple exchanges of information, and ultimately create a world where AI and human interactions can enhance our life experiences rather than replace them.

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Written by Alida
I entered this earthly plane on May 3, 1979 and have lived in the Blackstone Valley ever since. My interests include great food and wine, science and technology, music, photography, travel, and nature-based spirituality. Feel free to send me a message at and I'll reply as soon as possible.
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